self help
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The author reflects on a fulfilling, obligation-free day, allowing their mind to wander creatively. They ponder the term “whelmed,” noting we often speak of feeling overwhelmed or underwhelmed but not simply whelmed. The discussion with friends leads to suggestions like “content” and “normal,” but the author argues for reinstating “whelmed” as a descriptor of emotional…
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Reframing Childhood Trauma: Unveiling Harmful Beliefs
The writer traces the link between traumatic childhood experiences and harmful adult behaviors, focusing on a specific incident of unjust punishment. The impact of this experience is examined, revealing the writer’s journey of self-healing and recognition of unhealthy coping mechanisms. Through mindfulness and self-compassion, they seek to overcome past trauma and embrace their true self.
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Dealing with Family Dynamics: Understanding, Coping, and Healing
The post reflects on familial dysfunction and the challenges of navigating relationships shaped by childhood dynamics. The author realizes that familial interactions are often rigid and transactional, leading to emotional distance. Despite deep love, family gatherings are awkward, and informal communication is rare. As the author works on personal growth and setting boundaries, they strive…
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The Memory Mansion is Empty: What 20 Years of Narcissistic Abuse Steals
The author explores a technique called Memory Mansion, designed to enhance mental health by associating positive memories with imagined or real rooms. However, they struggle to recall purely happy memories, revealing feelings of anxiety and sadness. They express a desire for “unadulterated joy” and hope that by addressing past traumas, they can create space for…
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Moving On: Letting Go of Emotional Baggage
The author expresses relief at discarding unwanted furniture that symbolized a troubled marriage. The hand-me-downs from EH’s sister were a reminder of financial strain and emotional distance in the relationship. Despite EH’s attempts to evoke regret, the author’s transformation reflects newfound clarity about their separation, understanding EH’s controlling behavior, and reaffirming their decision to move…
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Rediscovering Self-Care Through Cooking for One: My Journey to Self-Love
Struggling with stress-induced nausea and lack of appetite, the writer realizes the stark contrast between her willingness to cook for her ex-partner and her neglect of self-care. Recognizing the need to redirect her nurturing energy toward herself, she reframes cooking for one as an act of self-love and worthiness.
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From Emotional Abuse to Empowerment: A Personal Story
abuse, Addiction, Anxiety, Artistic Creations, Childhood Trauma, Cooking, DIY, garden, grief, Healthy Boundaries, Interests, Letting Go, loneliness, Marriage & Divorce, Mental Health, mindfulness, Music, Personal Presentation, Physical Health And Appearance, Physical Stress Responses, reading, regret, Relationship Styles And Behaviour, relationships, Release, Self Healing, Therapy, Writing
The author reflects on personal growth after reading an impactful article about emotional abuse. A man, previously abusive, shares insights on how abusers target their partners’ strengths. The author recounts losing self-identity and confidence in a relationship where their individuality was stifled. Recognizing these patterns empowers them to reclaim their identity and confidence, initiating a…
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Rejuvenating in the Garden: Finding Strength and Inner Peace
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After experiencing grief-induced emotional instability, the writer finds solace and purpose in gardening. Spring brings rejuvenation and a sense of promise. Despite moments of contentment, the writer struggles with sudden mood drops and impatience for healing. Meditation offers challenges, but the writer seeks to embrace patience and find moments of calm and contentment.
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Understanding Communication Patterns in Relationships
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In reflecting on past relationships, the author recognizes two key issues: communication and control. They often dismissed others’ feelings, seeking approval rather than understanding. Additionally, a desire for control stemmed from internal chaos, particularly during their marriage. Realizations include the need for open dialogue and healthy boundaries, leading to personal growth and the practice of…
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Embracing Change: Navigating Life After Divorce
The author reflects on the tumultuous ending of a marriage, recognizing the necessity of the split while grappling with the loss of their shared identity. Despite longing for renewal, they acknowledge the need for personal healing before entering another relationship. Ultimately, they affirm a desire for a better future, viewing their journey toward recovery with…
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